How grief and loss can bring out the worst in people

What would Mum and Dad say if they knew you were fighting over their hard earned property, super and other assets?

How often have we all heard that grief and loss bring out the best and the worst in people?  It really is true isn't it?  Sadly, when we lose significant people in our lives a chain reaction of free flowing emotions tends to start and all sorts of unresolved issues from the past can surface, including old sibling rivalry - feelings about unfair treatment by parents, unfair advantages to our brothers and sisters, things that weren't said and should have been or were said and shouldn't have been.

When Mum and Dad are no longer around to keep the family on some sort of an even keel or to even give their version of events, there is the potential for these issues to get right out of hand - especially if, for one reason or another, Mum and Dad decided that their estate should not be divided equally.

There are indeed laws about sorting out perceived inequities in respect of who is left what, and the courts are there to help as a last resort.

As mediators skilled in dealing with all types of interpersonal disputes, though, we know that "blood is thicker than water" in most cases.  A discussion around a table under the guidance of a skilled mediator BEFORE the dispute escalates, has the best chance of ensuring the estate is not depleted through legal costs and of achieving a result everyone can live with and which allows siblings to continue on as a family - something every parent would want.

How would you feel if your kids ended up not talking to each other and trying to forget they were even related, just because you were prudent enough to have something to leave them? Most in those circumstances would rather spend it all before they went. 

Give our expert and sensitive mediators the opportunity to help you sort your estate issues in a way which allows you to save money, save face and save relationships.