"I'm leaving you...." How to survive the emotional rollercoaster of ending a relationship

This week, we've been focusing on controlling partner and toxic relationships, and we've spent a lot of time telling you about the signs you need to look out for in your own relationship.

Yesterday, we discussed the practical steps you need to consider prior to ending a toxic relationship with a controlling partner (safety - support - setting goals) and today, we're going to concentrate on the emotionally aspects of getting through a break up.

Leaving is not a single event - it's a continuing and evolving process. Here's how to survive the emotional rollercoaster..............

See yourself

During emotionally stressful times like this it is easy to forget about looking after yourself properly. You're going to need to be physically as well as emotionally strong to get through this, so try and remember to eat well, get some rest (and maybe a little exercise) and look after yourself. 

Take some time out

Meditation can be great for getting centred (yes its 100% the last-thing-in-the-world you are going to feel like doing, but trust us. It will really help). Never tried meditation before? Check out our Brisbane Mediations Guide to Meditation.

Support

If you read our "Practical Advice for leaving" blog yesterday, you'll be thinking we're repeating ourselves, but support is going to be a recurring theme throughout your break-up. 

You've probably forgotten who the people are you can rely on.And maybe you feel a little weird about asking anyone for help, hey you are probably thinking you don't want to discuss the nitty gritty of your relationship with other people yet as you need to get your own head around it first. 

Getting support from others doesn't necessarily have to mean sharing your whole story with them if you don't want to. Think about support for the little things causing you stress. Could your Dad pick the kids up after school? Or could your friend take your son to soccer practice? Don't try and go it alone, even with the every day tasks.

We know it's not easy, and if things are really getting on top of you, seek professional help from your GP, a therapist or counsellor.