Don't involve your adolescents in your post separation disputes

Separated and disputing parents of adolescent children need to guard against imparting any (even unintentional) encouragement to their children to take their side against the other parent. Teenagers already have their own developmental issues to deal with - for example, finding a way to individuate from parents whilst still maintaining close attachments, pursuing serious educational and career goals, developing adult type relationships and establishing their own identity in the world. They should be relieved of any explicit or implicit onus to align themselves with one parent or the other. Parents who alienate their adolescents against the other parent do so at both their children's and their own peril. There is a risk to the mental health of the adolescent and to the later relationship between the alienating parent and the alienated child. Denise Britton, Co-Principal Brisbane Mediations